It looks like I am the first to reply to this message. So what I want to say is that the most scientifically accurate answer to all of your questions is that nobody knows for sure what the answers are. That said, there are theories that abound in the psychological literature, most of them plausible, none of them conclusive. Meanwhile my concern is not to be concerend with causes of anyone's particular sexual interests since this seems virtually to be an errand with no end in sight. Instead I concern myself with the problems of persons who express their sexual interests, no matter what those interests happen to be, in ways that they find unsatisfying or in ways that do violence to fundamental ethical considerations that all human beings should live by--things like being honest in not defrauding others, not using abuse of one's social or physical powers to achieve unfair advantage, and being responsibile for one's own and others' health (and for not making unwnated babies). These things--whether sex is satisfying and whether one can be sexual in ways that do no harm to basic ethical standards of conduct applicable to all human beings no matter what kind of behavior we are talking about, sexual or otherwise--are matters that always concern eveyone even while we don't evem have psychological answers to explain these bahaviors either. Even without psychological explanations to account for the causes of human behaviors, we must act on whatever happens to be the best current knowledge. Based on my understanding of the psychological literatuere, the best knowledge today suggests to me that guilt and shame about one's sexual interests, no matter what those interests are, is the biggest impediment to finding both ethical and satisfying ways of enjoying one's sexuality.
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