A woman I will call Jean, and have been counseling with is in her mid 50's, widowed, and living alone, had a man in the neighborhood (about 53 yrs old) whom she has known for about 6 years call her and wanted to ask her something in person. She said alright. He went to her house, and she let him in. He began the conversation by telling her an experience he had while being a care giver for a woman in her mid 80's. He said he was in his bedroom masturbating and she walked in on him. He was embarrased at first, but she told him to continue, and then said to him, "You don't know how much I needed that." This became a regular occurence between the two of them. He then told her that he thought this would help her also since she has been without a man in her life for about 5 yrs. He has shown romantic interest in her in the past, but she has never returned the interest. He suggested that she should watch him masturbate, and that if she felt comfortable with it, he would also watch her. Jean's reaction was one of being dumbfounded, but not offended. She said she would never even consider such a thing and was somewhat embarrased by his invitation. My questions: 1)What might be this man's motive for approaching Jean in such a manner? 2)Are there any suggestions that I should give to Jean about how to handle this man in the future? I am concerned because she is alone, and she is an attractive, pettite sized woman who has dependency issues and some physical health concerns.
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