I think the above applies to unrequited love outside the analytical relationship. People in the throes of this sort of passion often feel terrible about themselves, foolish, crazy, out of control, all of which have the propensity to fuel the obsession with the loved object. The love that is felt has something of value, is in fact "real", but the person with these feelings may be told they are a "love addict" and pathologized in all sorts of ways. Better to explore the meaning of the love experience, which certainly does not mean condoning acting out. The analytical relationship provides the context, the safety, and the opportunity to accept, understand and tolerate the pain, and accompanying growth that occur within the hearts and minds of people who experience these types of love experiences.
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