Cut through the Axiom-tripe and what you're saying is that I "caused" him to drive drunk (there is a sequence and it probably goes back to him being angry at me for telling him to turn down his stereo which I shouldn't be able to hear a half acre away), I "caused" him to beat up on my neighbor, I "caused" him (this one's the best of all) to beat on and try to break in my back door. You are engaging in several of Samonow's Thinking Errors, which are definitions of how domestic violence perpetrators try to reason themselves out of guilt. IN this case, you "blame" the other person for "causing" the offender to do something that is unsafe or illegal, as if the offender had no other options. Samonow would have us believe that violence is NEVER acceptable, as there are always ways to resolve a conflict otherwise. When you have someone you hate to begin with, beating up on your friend in your back yard, then trying to break your door down, then you are told that this same individual is angry at you for calling the police,and that they have a gun in their house, and everything you've predicted about this individual has come true only worse, and you feel threatened enough to get a gun and alarm system, you come back and tell me how you would handle it. Until then, go teach an ethics course somewhere. Maybe you live in an ivory tower, but I live in the real world.
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