I was very moved by your story and touched by your depth of honesty, and compassion for the people who you told that you were female. You honesty and integrity are what stand out to me not that you lyed. I am a woman and have wanted to do precisely what you did, and although, to date, I have not I can understand the desire to do so. I celebrate with you all that you have learned from this experience about your many faceted personality. :) I don't think you caused any harm, quite the opposite - it sounds like you helped develop a community that did not exist before. You helped people to feel good. If I were in their shoes I imagine that I might feel some initial shock and perhaps feel deceived, but eventually I hope that I would remember the "real you" who shined through no matter what gender you called yourself and affirm that I still had a positive and rewarding relationship with you. Personally, I feel uncomfortable with the enormous meaning attached to whether someone is a woman or a man. I like using names online that don't reveal my gender and people can think what they think. To me, your experience raises the question of why should it matter whether you are female or male because in the end it's who you are that counts! Thank you for sharing so openly. I hope you can find a way to stop beating yourself up over this because I don't think you deserve it! Jeri
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