Thanks for your input. I especially appreciated this: I consider sexual overtones in conversation as sexual involvement. And this: I wrote on 10/15/00. Now it is 6/23/01. There was no acting out ever. But big problems came from the buttons issues. Any guesses what happened once I was progressed in therapy enough to confront him about the inappropriateness of that comment? You may have guessed what I did not..... DENIAL. Now, the only reason I stayed with that guy after that comment initially was because it seemed very out of character, and a momentary loss of boundaries, and I live in a small town where I could ask another client if this was typical behavior. She was shocked. I ran into this client after the raging by the therapist. She was just as shocked at the raging. She was right when she showed that HE had a vulnerability in that area. I account his reaction to fear and projection. He accused me of being mean to him .... before he started his tiraid of blaming critical statements. He did admit that therapy could become "sexualized," however. I did do a lot of good therapy and healing, BUT those comments were very violating in the end. And the beginning. AND it was very DESTRUCTIVE to be yelled at like that when trust and openness had been estabished. The roller coaster continued the whole time, too. It was a shock because he allowed other assertive confrontations. I guess like all therapists, he has his strengths and weakness. He is very skilled and that is why I didn't dump him then. But I did need therapy for my therapy for awhile. Should have been a clue, huh. Silly me. And the innocent do get harmed even with sexual talking. And, I wasn't the one who lost my boundaries either time other. Except of course to sternly stop it back then. I am interested to know more about how therapist who violate were violated as clients. I needed to hear your straight out: You are right. It messes with clients. It messed with me and that is what I told him. I am interested to know more about how therapist who violate were violated as clients. sunrise@pioneernet.net I would like to dialogue with you more...
a few posters made it pretty evident that even the very innocent can get hung out to dry, and you don't ever want to create the illusion of that sort. If you think that there was anything okay about the sexual allusions in therapy, there weren't.
Anger, rage, fear, loss of boundaries again by yelling at me "you messages" such as, "YOU have a vulnerability in that area."
if you think that there was anything okay about the sexual allusions in therapy, there weren't. His tactic was to try to me me think I was delusional about the whole thing. Sorry, too many evidences like that posting I did. I DID NOT MISNDERSTAND.
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