Just so that you realize I mentioned the argument of " the person may have unrealistic expections " as an equal counterargument to Kims " if you don't have sex your partners will not be able compare each other " Which does not seem like a particularly good reason to refrain from sex until marriage.
I do agree that there are many girls that get themselves into trouble by having sex at too early of an age. But is refraining from premartial sex the only answer. As mentioned in other areas of this forum I think that real education is the only answer to this. Yes, many girls are vunerable to pressures of sex. But why? I have a little sister myself who I am wildly protective of, however, I feel she is quite capable of caring for herself. From personal experience I know my parents never discussed sex w/ me and never would never have assisted in helping me get birth control. I remained a virgin until choose to have sex and when I did I put myself on birth control. On the other hand I have had friends who had sex in grade 7 and very much regretted it and no doubt they were manipulated by older men [25yrs]. I think the real issue is that this is very likely predatory
behavior on the part on SOME manipulating men who like to take advan. of the innocent virgin type... Yes its definitely an uneven relationship. But I think providing girls of our with self esteem and knowledge that the world is all too full of people who would love to manipulate them and coerice them into serving their needs... Its not the sex its the unfair relationship between a practically preteen F and 25 yr man. Sure its stat rape but that doesn't mean much these days. There is definitely something very animalistic about the predatory relationship between some OLDER men and SOME young girls.
Does anyone agree that there seems to be an inherent attraction of older men 40s, 50s, even to young women 20s. I wonder if the attraction is purely physical. I have noticed this age category of men seem much more attracted to young women than their own age. [personal obsvn and common sense]
Do you think its some kind of dominance rxn, sex, or fatherly role primarily....
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