I don't think "Realist" is realist when "Issues of competence arise ... insecurities and fear of "attractive" women" or when it is opined that "Most likely such men have never had healthy relationships with women their own age (or younger); most have clung to their mother and see the new older woman as a substitute." ... well the last statement is just pure bullshit! I have been in a relationship with a young, beautiful female my age and what a "bitch" she was ... my professional opinion! She was ... wanting financial security without the effort of working for it, the vacation, house, bank account and all the glamour without putting the time in ... and as many guys says "We compromise, then we do what she wants" is pretty much the psychology of a same age girlfriend/women ... but it is not the case of all women. I'm referring to the fact that a sub-group of women in my generation have "child-like" ideas of what love is, what sexual intimacy is, what a relationship is all about ... which, if you interview a women in her 50's (and they will tell you that they are not dead yet!) you will find out that these are the qualities they possess ... emotional maturity (minus the hot flashes). I'm younger than my wife who is in her early 50's and the very last thing a guy want if's to "continue the lifestyle he enjoyed with mom." I think "Realistic" lack psychological finess ... and more I would really like to see the research evidence of what he/she opined when it is said that "That is not to say that a relationship between a man and a woman twenty years his elder cannot be satisfying; it is just a different sort of relationship that what biology intended." So "Love you all" I wouldn't mind seeing your evidence!
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