Re: Dichotomous thinking can be dangerous

Below I quote the original posting. I will emphasize key terms with capitalization.

"If a brother CONVINCES his sister who is 2 years younger to have sex with him for years, even though she NEVER WANTED to have sex and TOLD HIM SO."

If adult A CONVINCES adult B to do something that adult B first said she didn't want to do, what has happened? You say A has been molested or abused.

Maybe there was abuse, but we don't know that from anything that was written in this posting.

If A convinces B to do something that B said she didn't want to do, how did B become CONVINCED?

You claim she wasn't convinced. That is, you disqualify, invalidate, negate B's very own statement that she was convinced.

If I as an adult say I don't want to do what you, another adult, later convince me to do, then:

(1) I am conflicted or
(2) you have reallly convinced me but I don't want to acknowlegde that fact or
(3) I lack assertiveness in not be able to insist on my own wants.

Clearly, the person who wrote this statement reprsents a situation that is one or more of these three if she and her brother are both adults.

White-and-black thinking is no more helpful to a clinician that to a political leader who sees international events with the same kind of dichotomous simplistic conceptualizations of human beings.

Replies:

Re: Dichotomous thinking can be dangerous, by Patricio , 03/08/03 Re: Dichotomous thinking can be dangerous, by Annie, 03/15/03 Re: And, please do tell,, by Patricio, 03/22/03

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