Re:Online Sexual Addiction--you may wish to note

You wrote:

"I've done some sleuthing..."

"I confronted him..."

"I've come up with proof..."

Being a detective and being in an intimate relationship with the person who is the unknowing object of your detective projects places you in a conflict of interest in adopting these dual roles.

He seems to be in dual roles, too, that place him in a position of conflict of interest. One the one hand, he has promised to marry you even while he seems to be searching for another to love and be with.

One of the things I always recommend to couples is that they learn more about relationships. They could read many of the fine and wonderful books together on how to be successful in intimate relationships. There are today so many outstanding authors that the subject of how to have a succesful intimate relationship is no longer the mystery it used to be as recently as 25 years ago.

What remains a mystery is what stands in the way of many more couples availing themselves of all this terrific knowledge. Couples could (but rarely do) study and learn together about the skills of intimate relating, and in relatively short time they could become nearly experts themselves on intimate relationships.

So perhaps if you will consider what it is that stands in the way of you and/or your signficant other becoming relationship experts in a joint study project, you may have a better idea of why both of you now find yourselves in dual roles that create conflicts of interest that impede working together as a team that finds intimacy with one another.

Want some suggestions for good books or tapes? Many readers here probably can suggest their favorite authors.

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