A woman I will call Jean, and have been counseling with is in her mid 50's, widowed for 5 years and living alone, had a man in the neighborhood (about 53 yrs old) whom she has known for about 6 yrs call her and wanted to ask her something in person. She said alright. He went to her house, and they sat down at her kitchen table to talk. He began to conversation by telling her an experience he had while being a care givre for a woman in her mid 80's. He said he was in his bedroom masturbating and she walked in on him. He was embarrased at first, but she told him to continue, and then said to him, "You don't know how much I needed that." This became a regular occurence between the two of them. He then told her that he thought this would help her also since she has been w/o a man in her life for so long. He had shown romantic interest in her in the past, but she has never returned the interest. He suggested that she should watch him masturbate, and that if she felt comfortable with it, he would also watch her. Jean's reaction was one of being dumbfounded, but not offended. She said she would never do such a thing and was somewhat embarrased by his invitation. He has exposed himself to at least 2 other women before the elderly woman. She has severe dependency issues and has an anxiety d.o. from possible family sexual abuse and a rape when she was in her 20's. My questions: Is this man a threat to her emotional well being by possibly exposing himself to her? What's the likelihood of that occuring? He has daily contact with her. How should she effectively deal with this man?
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