and she immediately took him back in to live with her, despite my dire warnings that this was almost guaranteed to happen again at some point. That's the problem. The problem is that you started acting like her psychotherapist, or social worker, without having entered into a informed consent relationship with your neighbor. This is a job you needed to let the cops handle and not get involved in. Once you start doing that, in my opinion it is really not fair for you to be pulling strings behind the curtain at the agency that you work at just because you interjected yourself into their situation, when you clearly should not have, and now don’t like the outcome. That is not fair to either one of your neighbors, because you trying to prevent the person who needs counseling at your agency from getting it there because you don't want him to, and because you interjected yourself into the situation and now you don't like the outcome and want to make it harder for the man and the woman to get assistance there. I agree with Dr. Ried, instead of getting yourself involved, you should have called 911 instead and dropped it there. Because that is what you pay your taxes for, that is what the police are trained for, social workers are not trained to handle physical confrontations. Not only were you playing cop, which you are not trained to do, you also started behaving as your neighbors psychotherapist, which you are not, AND now you want to manipulate the situation further by dictating to this alcholoholic who needs help that he can’t come to see a counselor where you work. And that’s not fair. I also do not believe that you are afraid of this person because if you were, then why in the world are you on top of him pulling him off of your neighbor? You say you are afraid of him yet you are also saying that you are getting physically involved with him in a fight? That’s a contradiction. From what you are saying, that you want to prevent him from getting help at your agency sounds to me as if you are not afraid of him but rather want to take out some kind of psychological revenge against him because your neighbor did not take your psychotherapy advice and leave him. And in my opinion this feeling of yours that you want to prevent this distressed couple from getting help at your agency is due to some kind of reactive anger within you, and really has nothing to do with your neighbors problems, but with yourself.
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