I have a few thoughts about all of this. Certainly from a legal point of view, I understand that if consent is revoked, the act must stop. Some examples that come to mind are if the man begins to do something the woman doesn't like or want, if he begins to act forcefully, etc. From an interpersonal/relationship/evolutionary point of view, I can only shake my head and marvel at how stupid we can be, and how often we want to be rescued from the consequences of our own choices. "I went out with you, went back to your house, went into your bedroom, took off my clothes, made out with you, engaged in foreplay, invited you to penetrate me...NOW GET OFF OF ME OR I'LL HAVE YOU ARRESTED!" Good grief. What have we sunk to in this country? Is no one responsible for the choices they make? Does the government have to come in and solve all our interpersonal dramas for us? What if we turn this around... A couple who has been dating for several months, and have slept with each other a few times. On this night, after sharing a bottle of wine, they go to bed. The woman is on top, nearing orgasm. The man says, "Honey I'm tired. Let's stop". The woman, getting closer, pleads "Just a second! I'm almost there!" The man repeats he's too tired and wants to stop. He tells her to "get off me". She leans down, arms over his, and works as hard as she can to get the job done quickly. Are we going to call her a rapist? Are we going to brand her forever as a sex offender and ruin her life? As for Dr. Reid's question, I don't know the answer, but I'm willing to make a guess or two. First, people are prioritized on organ lists (for example, heavy drinkers are lower on the liver list, if I'm not mistaken). There is a centralized process which supposedly dispenses "justice" which they don't want circumvented. Another possibility is to protect poor people on those waiting lists, who couldn't afford to go "buy a kidney". Still another possibility is that, if organ sales were legal, poor people, homeless people, drug addicts, etc. would all be at great risk for exploitation. A frightening thought, worthy of a science fiction novel.
To my mind, this simply illustrates the concept that people should be careful of who they sleep with, and they should talk openly about things before they do them. It amazes me how we can commit acts we are too embarassed to talk about with each other. Lack of intimacy, lack of knowledge, lack of respect, lack of responsibility. Just a sad and pitiful cycle we've got going here. What a shame.
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