I have been married for just over a year. My husband and I have a small baby. I believe he has a problem with lying. He lies all the time and for no reason. It has now gotten to the point that whenever he lies and I figure it out. It sort of just gets swept under the carpet. He lies about big things, he lies about little things. It is all the time and it is constant. When I confront him about lying to me...he claims that he lies to protect me and because he doesn't want to upset me. But the lies are starting to affect my life and I don't know what to do anymore. For instance, he told me for the last month straight that his company was going to start his health benefits. That he filled out the forms and everything and come March 1st. Our family would be covered. Well, I constantly asked him to bring home some kind of paperwork. I told him that if he was lying to me this time, our children would suffer. He promised me that he wasn't lying. I trusted him and I canceled our current insurance in anticipation of our new insurance to start. Well, of course March 1st came and went. He made up some story about how it wasn't his fault that H.R. had messed up. He is starting to not be able to even admit when he lies. He lies to back up his lies. He also told me recently that he was getting an extra paycheck. Things have been tight lately. I questioned him and questioned him...because I never actually saw the check. Yesterday, he suposedly went and deposited the check. He came home and said "ok, it's in". Well, today I contacted the bank and there has not been a deposit in our bank since february 21st (his last paycheck). I have not yet confronted him about this one...but there is obviously..NO CHECK. The problem is getting severe. He really is a wonderful man. I don't believe he would ever intentionally hurt me. He had a lot of trauma in his childhood. He is a victim of sexual abuse and I believe he may have some serious psych problems. It is starting to affect my life. I was counting on that check to go through and I paid bills and now we really don't actually have that money. I canceled our insurance and now we have none. If he would have just told me that the company was going to hold off his benefits. We could have kept our old insurane and worked out a solution together. I don't quite understand the lies. They don't make sense to me. I am desperate for help and I don't know what to do. I love him. Any suggestions? ( we now have no insurance...seeing a counselor will be tough for about another month or two) Sorry to bable. -ACP
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