In reading the section on Kathy's refusal to recover, I can visualize and understand that the therapist played the role of "Kathy" and in doing so modeled appropriate responses and did not take the blame or accept responsibility for the "other" person's depression etc. What about attachment? Do you believe that Kathy was able to perceive the therapist as an attachment figure and was therefore able to revise her style of attachment through her participation in a trusting and safe relationship? If so, did Kathy go through a period of time when she appeared to venture forth on her own and then suddenly returned to the therapist as a secure base? It would appear that Kathy did not at any point have a secure attachment with her mother and this in turn affected her ability to create for herself close and intimate relationships with others. Kathy seems to have gained insight about her relationship with her mother. However I believe that father too played a role in Kathy's beliefs about herself and wonder about Kathy's thoughts about her father and his involvement in her life. (* I posted earlier comments along this line but for some reason they never showed up on-line, so if this ends up being a duplicate....SORRY)
To: Ginger and others mystified
Your prior posting did appear here. You could not see it initially, but probably could have a few hours or a day later. What probably happened is your ISP, in order to reduce pressure on its network, makes use of "proxy servers". Instead of transmitting your messaged directly to Behavior OnLine, the message goes to another computer where the "page" you read is stored. When you returned to Behavior OnLine, you did not really reach the latest version of Behavior OnLine (which included your posting), but an older version, the same one you read just before you posted. AOL and some other large providers are forced to do this in order to compensate for network inadequacies. Use of a proxy server does little harm, except in an interactive environment like this one. And the harm that is done is temporary. Sooner or later the ISP brings you a fresher page. I hope this comment claries, more than it confuses.