Re:Transference and the Whole Therapy Relationship!!!

And a footnote on my last comment.

If I were to give you a hug right then and there I might be "rescuing" you from painful feelings. A big part of therapy is necessarily to allow the client to fully experience their pain rather than shelter them from it. If you don't fully experience it in a safe environment you'll never get past it.

Also, you assume that you'd be heartbroken. If I as a therapist go with that assumption, I would be allowing you to maintain that assumption in other areas in your life, thereby perpetuating your schema that tells you "If others don't meet my needs it means I am unlovable." My job is to help you see that you are loveable, and I can drive that message home 1000 times more effectively by process than by protecting you from your worst fear.

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Re:Transference and the Whole Therapy Relationship!!!, by Mariel, 04/02/02

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