Dear Marylan, from one mom to another. Try not to concentrate so hard on wanting her to show you she loves you. Read up on different parenting skills and the advise about the Rosemond theory. Get all the help you can to try to guide her in a direction. Let her think it is her idea to change her behavoir. As the parent you can learn to manipulate the situation. I know you feel like there is nothing left but hang in there,read everything you can get your hands on, and pray a lot. You may find you need several different techniques to get thru this. I read of one theory from Steven Covey called the post-it note theory. Basically the Dad, in this case, was losing touch with his teenage daughter. He felt she was hanging with the wrong crowd and basically taking the wrong path in life and he felt helpless. Covey suggested leaving post-it notes somewhere where she would see them every day. The notes were to have something positive written on them. Maybe I love you or You look nice today, anything positive you can say about your daughter, anything! In this particular case the man wasn't sure it was working until a few weeks later when in his daughters room he found every note he had written carefully placed on the back of his daughters bedroom door. Soon after that she started coming to him to talk. This story came from Steven Covey's 7 Habits of highly effective Families. I have personally read several parenting books including Preparation for Pareting, Growing kids God's way,and am currently taking an Intentional Parenting class thru my church and attending a local college to get my degree in Human Services. As I said take what seems to work best and apply those theories. There is bound to be something that will strike a nerve in your daughter. Good Luck!!!
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