I'm wondering whether this woman ever succeed changing her diet? First, this woman struggles with the quintessential problem. How do I lose weight? Of course, she has a lot of weight to lose. I don't think that her problem is that much different from that of the rest of us who fuel an enormous industry making millions of dollars of year off of all of us who strive to lose weight. Here are some of my observations. She's woman, unfortunately belonging to that sorority whose bodies just love to hang onto fat. I have noticed that the string has been dominated by Paul, Jim, and John who probably only have to eliminate fresh ground black pepper from their diet for a week to lose five pounds. I, as a woman, have had to watch my weight all of my life. Here is what I have learned from experience. You can just muscle your way through losing weight, but the soul isn't always in a place where you can beat it into submission. Sometimes, it's tired and just wants to have some fun. If a diet begins to work two things click in the human mind. First, there is a tremendous sense of accomplishment, but you have to get there first. More immediate, the body actually seems to change in its physical response to dieting. Something clicks, and the body begins to live in a sort of meditative process. I believe that this happens with fasting. However, it takes a few days to feel that effect. I believe that it occurs due to real chemical changes in the body. One is a response to dieting itself, and another, a response to eliminating the truly addicting components of food and other food born toxins from the diet. However, she must get there first, and it must seem like an impossible task, as anyone trying to lose five pounds can feel. Here's what I suggest. Rather than approach it as a health or beauty issue, try presenting it as a new way of sensing her body. Help put her in touch with feeling the changes a diet brings about, with little emphasis on the goals of weight loss. Help her find that meditative clear feeling brought on by dieting or fasting. Find fun or different ways to exercise, just walking for five minutes where there are people, a martial arts class, anything for the learning experiencing, relaxation, social content, but any other reason but to lose weight. Have her join Weight Watchers, but not necessarily go to the meetings, and she must tell the weight takers not to admonish her in any way for not losing or gaining weight. Just have her weigh in every week, and have her follow the point system. The system really does work, and she can creatively cook or buy food, but only in portions that she will eat without any additional snacks or leftovers involved. A breast of chicken. A doughnut, not the entire box. Emphasize change over time with many weeks where she will not make the effort to lose weight, but to hold the current level. Take the goal away from weight loss and place it on sensing herself differently, a very long but fascinating process toward a new vitality that she didn't know existed. The entire weight loss process is tiresome in the way that we have become accustom to approaching it. Make it a game of self-discovery. Also, I'm always of the mind of if you want to heal something get with the energy of people who have already successed at what you are trying to do. I don't know why this works, but it does. Just speaking from thirty years of experience here.
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