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Unread November 22nd, 2006, 12:51 AM
Chayan Das Chayan Das is offline
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Default Could you please explain more?

1) Why did I ask? A few years back, while I was studying some books, one of my junior classmates came to my room. He became very aggressive and started arguing with me. After some time I told him whatever he is thinking about me was his own thinking because only way he could understand me was by projecting his own thought over me. He suddenly stopped and apparently avoided talking more on the whole issue. After that, several times I came across phrases like 'adding life to life' and 'separation of identities' and somehow felt all these things are related. So, it may not be a great question to ask, but I feel all our questions are basically efforts to resolve our own internal confusions, which may not be at all significant to others. Now, I think, I understood what you said here. Only there is a little confusion. Another person may be viewed as 'another pattern of association in the mind' (p174, Hypnotherapy). So I wonder whether it is possible for a mental system to get more and more complex within itself and whether that could be related to realities of psychosis. Do you want me to learn anything more on this?

2) It is surprising to know how much we let others know (or a person can know) ourselves when for example an astrologer tells our past and future. Yet when we are in social situations free communication gets restricted by our doubts, misunderstandings, shyness, resistance etc. What are the actual meanings of these things in interpersonal communications? Particularly why does a person resist? Afraid to be a different person? Loosing something? Will permissive approach work better in these situations? If so, what steps are required to move from an authoritarian approach to permissive one? Does this shift require more learning?

3) If all our behaviors are self-expressions, we express ourselves in a complex way. Some of us have emotional problems, thought disorders, personality problems etc. that make the relation between expression and motivation complex. Moreover, people get so involved in their day-to-day roles that they have less opportunity to behave as a unique person. So by observing one's behavior it is very difficult to understand what one's real motivation is, unless we have an infinite knowledge of human behaviors. Still most people are able to lead their day-to-day life effectively and relate appropriately. So, probably we don't need to learn everything to understand others and still lead a creative and fruitful life - but my question is how? Where do I need to keep my attention?

I don't know whether I have asked these questions in a proper way, because my unconscious is very active. Many times I edited these. Thank you for your patience.

Chayan
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