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George Neeson September 23rd, 2006 04:31 PM

Influence of Childhood Prototypes ??
I have noticed a trend in dysfunctional relationships that I find interesting. It seems to me that a higher than expected number of folks have married or are in a relationship are linked with a person very like one of their parents. I can not bring to mind any comments in the CCWAA set that I have pretty much fully read at least once now. I wonder if Adler does speak to this and I also wonder if any other members of the forum (or if you are a guest ... register and comment) have noticed this relationship. To me it would fit with the style of life and ficional goal.

Henry Stein October 4th, 2006 09:55 AM

Re: Influence of Childhood Prototypes ??
An equally interesting choice of a partner is someone who is the "opposite" of one of the parents. This tendency would be reflected in the person's antithetical scheme of appereption. I have also seen clients who first marry someone like one of their parents, divorce this first spouse, then marry someone who appears to exhibit the opposite qualities.

Another, less frequent phenomenon, is when a client marries someone who is like one of their siblings: brother/sister, brother/brother, and sister/sister combinations. I don't recall Adler discussing these dynamics generally in his writings, although he may have given a few examples in his case histories.

George Neeson October 6th, 2006 07:46 PM

Re: Influence of Childhood Prototypes ??
Well I should have seen that as obvious. "Alles kan auch anders sein" is such an obvious probability. I had not made note of the choice of the opposite until I think about patients I am seeing now that you mention it! Thanks for the comment Henry.

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