The idea that sexual thoughts etc are "none of the therapist's business" was really from me and not L. I made that statement in regards to my own personal therapy experience as a client and how I reacted to some questions comments re sexuality. I did tell my therapist it was none of his business - it was my reaction and based on previous experiences. I have however been able to discuss that reaction and to also have further discussions re sexuality. The willingness of my therapist to ask questions and make comments was a key factor in my being able to deal with my own immediate reaction and later have more discussion. So, I wasn't saying that it is not the business of a therapist to ask qestions or bring up such topics. I was stating how I initially reacted to my therapist in my therapy. What is interesting to note is that my therapist accepted my response that "it is none of his business" and did not push the matter, there was a good respect of boundaries. However, he had opened the door. Please note, I had been previously sexually assaulted and abused by someone in the helping profession - a therapist - and so for me it is a strong boundary issue. I also think that if the client says it is none of the therapist business that must be respected. Some may just not wish to bring that issue into therapy for whatever reason and the reasons are quite okay. Clients do not have to justify/explain those reasons. Long response, just wanted to clarify where that "none of the therapist business" came from.
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