it was still your fear, your angst. How would it have been too intimate? What harm could it have caused? Was the potential for harm real or created through your own sense of fear? Did the potential for harm outweigh the potential for benefit? My therapist has said things that have really upset me, once he said something that caused me a great deal of hurt. We talked about this later and he acknowledged that he had not used the best choice of words and we worked it through. I now he isn't perfect and I know that he never intentionally set out to hurt me. Being able to talk openly, to express my reactions without being judged or told in some way that I overreacted etc. has been a key element of importance in my therapy. It is an interesting topic, how does the therapist really know for sure if now is the time to put out that difficult question? sometimes the only way to know is to put it out there and then work through the reactions in an adult manner. It is a great learning experience for the client. If the client has already learned that the therapist will make mistakes and isn't perfect then that is even better.
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