I would like to contribute something to this subject as well. I read the postings here and have to say that the reason of a child masturabting is not always because of the child being abused or not loved. My parents were very caring and well educated people. They gave me love and affection and were very understanding. I was a very happy kid. And I am happy to be what I am today.
I also used to start masturbating at a very young age...and I can still remember that I even did it in kindergarden while others weren't around.
My parents knew but did not tell me or talked with me about it. I didn't even know myself what I was doing until I was older, able to read and found a doctor's magazine lying around at home. I discovered an article about it and the result was, that I was was shocked and thought I was abnormal. They showed pictures in it and explanations how to see if a child is masturbating (therefor I should say it was already in the early 80ies).
I was afraid of what I was doing and that it wasnt something "normal" until I read in teen magazines about its normality.
I think it was good that I was only indirectly taught what masturbation is, even though I would have prefered if my parents have told me in an understanding way.
And I think that this the most important for a child, not to be told that masturbation is wrong because it is NOT wrong, it is natural. The only thing parents should add while talking with the child and explaining is that it is something very private and should be enjoyed alone. But we adults should not forget that when one is grown up it can also be a pleasure in a partnership.
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