Affairs result from a conflict between biologically-determined needs and social constraints, which are, themselves, genetically determined (at least in part). We all live in a natural state of "incongruency" in this regard. It is incongruent to avoid any extra-marital contact when it is part of our nature to generate genetically variable offspring, and consequently, mate with more than one person. Forcing somebody to practice strict monogamy can be as detrimental to one's mental health as having an affair that will cause the " incongruency" of having to lie and to live a "double life". People have had affairs since the beginning of the humankind, and people will be having affairs until the end of it, for the simple reason that it is part of our natural constitution. Stating that affairs generally contribute to the deterioration of one's mental health is at the same level of hypocrisy as it is to say that such statement has nothing to do with one's moral viewpoints. What deteriorates people's mental health is the underlining hypocrisy society-and some therapists- show toward an issue that is pervading, and that has happened to most of us. If we could provide people with understanding and acceptance toward such needs, and stop making so much fuss about it, mental health institutions and professionals would certainly not earn as much money as they do now, because people would be more sincere, and somewhat happier.
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