Sex is not something like a sport, that you get "good" at, but a meshing of styles and needs of two different people. Skills are not transferrable from one person to another, and any two people who really love eachother and care about eachother's needs and preferences can have good sex, without "practicing" on other people. Your example of a person's having unrealistic expectations because the only sex he has had is from porn does not hold water. Anyone could have unrealistic expectations, including basing them on experiences with other people. As a professional, I have seen too many people get into trouble because of the aforementioned thinking, that sex is a "right" and necessary for a relationship. I am talking about females of your age that have already had five children, are on government support, often living in a women's shelter, and think they might be pregnant from a guy they have recently met. To alot of these people, sex is just something you do as a part of any date, because it is expected of them. That is why I think abstinance and learning how and when to say no do have a place, and if more women had this skill, they would be less likely to end up in the abusive relationships and/or pregnant with a child they are not prepared to take care of. I have a hard time believing that most women under 21 this day and age are emotionally and economically prepared for motherhood. There are exceptions, of course, but too many examples of the opposite. Of course there are contraceptions, but they cost money, take education, wilingness to visit the doctor, and foreplanning to implement, and forethought to use in a timely manner. Even when properly used, statistically most contraceptives have only about a 90% effectiveness rate.
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