Yes, I agree with Sean. I am 21 years old and I waited to have sex until I was with someone I really loved [age 18] and I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever. I think sexual compatibility is definitely something you should have BEFORE you marry the person. Its just as important as knowing their religion, attitudes towards raising children, life goals and so on. Just because you sleep with other people before marrying does NOT mean you will negatively compare your partner to others in your past. On the contrary I'd be more worried about sleeping with a man that had no experience... afterall might he not be more likely to have unreasonable expectations of you [for example maybe the only sex he has experienced has been vicariously through movies, and porn mags] I am sure we can all agree these sources of info can be quite misleading. He maybe disappointed with you if you fail to experience an earth shattering, gargantuous orgasm everytime. Perhaps both partners would become weary and curious .... so my point is that just as many things can go wrong with this path. One other thing, what about those of us who are just plain old NOT interested in just married... why should we have to miss out on sexual experiences. Am I supposed to be a celibate all my life? Practice makes perfect and sex is just as important as other aspects of a marriage. Maybe you have never had the joy of being with a good lover and thats your calamity. I find your attitude, "at least neither
person can compare you to other lovers and therefore it will
be the best sex you've ever had," insulting to both men and women. I don't that you would approach other areas of your life with that same attitude.... for eg. just work at Arbys your whole life and you won't know there are better jobs out there, so Arbys will be the best job in the world. Don't you think your sex life deserves the same respect you readily give to other arenas of your life??
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