At some point, you need to work on getting him in touch with his feelings and memories, otherwise, he is bound to re-enact the past. It is such a truism, that if it was done to you, you will probably do it to someone else. Bringing those thoughts and feelings out will break that mental cycle. As a young female, you may be in a good position to help. Be very careful to keep it as a professional relationship. Because of his age, and corresponding developmental issues, besides all the other confusing feelings he is having from the abuse, he is likely to become very attached to you, should a good rapport develop. In other words, work for a good rapport, not a warm and fuzzy one. In this case, three words about touch; never, never, never. A good way to connect with a kid this age is through shared activity. It should be something that will involve hands-on activity, yet not so complex as to preclude conversation.
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