Alex, this is a forum for professionals to discuss issues realted to human sexuality, although it is hard to believe, judging from the quality of so many of the postings here that people who post here really are professionals--it's even more difficult to want to believe it. So your question about your personal concerns are not exactly being directed to the right audience for several reasons. It really is imporant to discusss psychological things that bother you with a competent therapist (if you can find one--not an easy task, I know), just as you would see your physician to discuss a headache or any other physical concern that might be bothering you. I can tell you that the chances are that your fantasy ITSELF is not a cause for worry. The most likely thing is that you use this fantasy as a way circumvent feeling it is wrong of you to wan to be a sexual person. That is, you imagine sex being imposed on you so that you can circumvent the problem of acknowledging your own desire to be more fully sexual. You may have some problems associated with your perhaps feeling unentitled to be a sexual person in general. The rape fantasy is thus very common among women because women, more so than men, tend to feel that individuation in the matter of being a sexual person has been closed off to them for one reason or another. My statements, however, should not be regarded as necessarily correct for you since it is impossible to be sure of what your concerns are or what meanings your fantasies have for you without getting to know you much more. So it would be best for you to talk to a competent private therapist if you remain concerned about this or any other personal psychological concern you have.
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