This one is difficult to respond to, because it could go in so many different directions depending on the people involved. It would be nice if we could ask this woman "well, how does this situation FEEL?" That's the best source of data on the likelihood of him respecting her. I sense that you believe she's not very good at sensing actual danger, although I'm always loathe to assume that without checking it out. Although no one likes to carelessly expose clients to distressing situations, I'm a little concerned that you believe that this man could "threaten her emotional well-being by possibly exposing himself." I would hope that she's resolved the issues of past coercion enough so that she could tolerate seeing a penis she didn't want to see. If so, she's at virtually no risk. If he exposes his penis and she doesn't want to see it, she either walks away or says "put the damn thing away." How should she deal with this man? It depends on what she wants and her anxiety level. If she wants his friendship and doesn't live in fear of him, she should simply say "no thanks" to the sexual offer and continue on with their friendship. If she can't tolerate the anxiety of contact with him, she should tell him she no longer wants contact with him, and she should turn away if he tries to be friendly. I don't know the guy and so I can't diagnose him, but it's entirely possible that he's a more or less OK guy who has found this kind of arrangement satisfactory, and is offering it to someone convenient (or whom he actually likes). Unless he's giving off bad vibes or behaving disrespectfully, let's not require her to feel frightened in order to feel confident that she's taking care of herself.
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