Maybe I should clarify a few things. I often think my therapist is uset with me or about to abandon me. Maybe she did tell me so that I wouldn't think her absence was about me and blame myself. I don't know. It's the only time she has talked about her personal life that I remember. She has been consistently focusing on my issues when we meet. I don't feel upset with her for telling me about her husband. But I admit, now that I know what she is going through, I DO worry about what will happen as a result. And I find myself hesitant to talk about my problems in session because I know she is going through alot of stuff herself. And I don't want to overload her. But she has told me not to worry about that. She said that she has no trouble setting aside her concerns in order to focus on my issues. I don't want a different therapist. I just want to know how to proceed with my sessions in a way that I can move ahead, but not feel selfish about piling too much on her. I admit I have been demanding at times, and my therapist has had to set limits on my leaving her phone messages. I wonder if she told me so that I would realize she has a life outside the office. Maybe she thought by telling me this, I would realize I can't expect her to always be accessible. In some ways, even though her disclosure has caused me to worry, it has given me some benefits too. I've always thought of her as having everything all figured out, all the answers, etc. So much so, that when I heard about her husband, I was shocked. Sometimes I forget she is human with human problems. My first thought when she told me was "How is that possible? This couldn't be happening to HER!" Knowing this has put things back into perspective as far as reminding me that she is not somehow God-like and "above" such human crises. So it has been kind of a two-edged sword. But I want to get past it and continue with therapy with her.
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