And I wouldn't have even been trying to "point out the folly" to my neighbor except that I considered her a friend, and I was also looking out for my own good as this is going on next door to me. AS I work wiht DV clients I know that these situations often spill over into the neighborhood, and I moved out here and bought this house specifically because I was trying to get away from noise and rude people. I saw this coming way long ago when I started to hear from her the same behavior patterns that suggest someone does not like to live by norms of society, does not show concern for the rights and happiness of others, and does not like to be told what to do, even when it's legitimate. Over the past 8 months or so I've become increasingly concerned about this and I was worried more about what was going to happen this coming summer, when doors are open and people are outdoors and this guy likes to play his stereo as loud as he likes, or do whatever he likes regardless of if it disturbs others or not. I have not done anything to get in the middle of this except when disruptions come into my property. All I want is to be left alone and this is not someone who respects people's rights if it conflicts with his own pleasure. My neighbor and I are not friends at this point, as she decided to let him move back in with her immediately after his hearing. It seems the poor boy has no means to support himself and she seems to think he has magically changed just because he apologized to her (in the process of her considering giving him back his free place to stay). I also got angry with her because of her take on the original incident in question. NOw she says she did not really believe he was trying to hurt her, he just wanted his key so he could run off to florida and thereby avoid charges from a DUI he got that afternoon. She said she was running over to my house for me to keep the key from him so he couldn't drive while he was still drunk. (along your lines of letting her stay over while her BF is out looking for her) I got angry because she wasn't seeking help so much as for me to enable her in enabling him. SHe also suggests that I consider his point of view (on the police being called) and that I "just have to understand because he's just stubborn." If I knew then what I know now I'd have been tempted to throw him the key and let him run off to florida. then the problem would be in some other state. I'm quite dismayed by some of the posters here who try to depict me as some over controlling power crazed agency professional who would abuse my power because of some "emotional reaction" on my part, and him the pathetic victim who shouldn't be blamed for his "disease," or "treated like trash." THe other ethical thread that seems to have come up here is the question of self-responsibility. Obviously a few people have it wrong to imply that I have in any way caused any of this, or have a professional ethical responsibility to this bonehead. These same people seem eager to coddle him and forgive him for his illegal, intrusive and disruptive behaviors, as if he had no other choice but to drive drunk that afternoon, or any other afternoon for that matter.
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