I'm sorry, the last few lines of the previous post were lost in cyberspace. The rest of the post follows:
*"you " language. * blaming. * sense of self as victim. * sense of powerlessness. * style of provoking others. * "I know how you feel." * Moralism -- e.g., "you should..."
Source: Daniel E. Jones, PhD. Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, 1994.