Hey Dale... sorry for answering so late, but i was talking my time to process what you said in my mind... and to live my life... that was a very interesing message you wrote... i enjoyed it
Now that we know more about each other... let me tell you something personal... (this is Gestalt forum so i guess i can feel free to talk honestly about myself!)
First of all, I'm going to tell you that JG are the initials of my name... that is Javier Guillen, the one who wrote a post asking about the relation about Gestalt therpay and Gestalt theoretical therapy in this forum about 1 year ago... i received one answer from Gerhard Stemberger, followed by another of my questions that was never answered...
as you can understand by those posts that i did, at that time i was really into the theoretical understanding of Gestalt therapy... i think i was something like a brain with legs... not a lot of heart.. or maybe too much?
My life has changed a lot since then... im now in another country (yeah, USA!) studying business administration... a different lenguage, a different culture... different people and different everything... why did i change all that in such a radical way? i think it was because i was tired of that pseudo-philosophical enviroment where i was living in which everybody was all the time looking into giving mental health diagnosis to everyone else (am talking about friends and relatives here!) and judge about people behavior and this society without really going to the world and doing something about it... and to do something about it doesnt mean for me just to set an office and stay the whole day listening to the problems of the people and then give interpretations or plans for behavioral change (or, like this pseudo-philosophers that i just mentioned, to complain about the world all the time)... for me, true action calls for a complete involvement in the subject... i can't conceive the work of a psychologist as "just a job" where you have to do it because that's what you learned in college and that is your economical support.
but when i realized all that it was a little bit late... as you once mentioned, my young brain was already full of theories, "should be"s, researchs, and all that... it has been so difficult for me to start from 0 again, paying attention to experience more than to all that shoulds and should not;
sometimes i just feel desperate realizing that me, with a degree in psych, can in some moments know a LOT less about humans that the average person... (what can you do with a theoretical explanation of what is love??!)
... and here i am, dealing with my freedom, sometimes being unable to handle all that pieces of informations that comes to me as awareness... images and experiences and emotions and thoughts everywhere... doesn't knowing what is what in all that ocean of things... from time to time, i feel something inside that tells me "that is you, follow it"... but my mind immediately screams "eh?!... is that true?!"...
i guess that happines lie on the process of learning... if i can just accept that... cause i feel desperate to get attain some goals!
im wondering what is going to happen to the people who are going to read this post... maybe some of them are going to say that this is not the place to discuss about my personal life, others will try to give advice and others will show pieces of empty wisdom (should bes)... hehehe... is going to be funny
anyway, i just felt confident with you Dale and as i can feel you appreciate personal contact... i shared with you a little bit of me...
p.d.: i enjoyed writing this message..