Knowing absolutely nothing about CMT, I offer the following: While pathological narcissism is clearly a self disorder, I think its cause is largely sociological. We are a very dis-engaged society, very individualistic. While we would all like to think we are captains of our own fate, most of us do best in a multi-layered familial web, where we have lots of others that are committed to us by blood and marriage. Frankly, I think we have a huge problem of too many ticks and too few dogs. While I by no means want to lay this at the feet of the women's movement, many of us who do have a sense of peace and security have had mothers who devoted themselves to us and our needs, with little concern about whether they had as much job status as Dad or whether their needs were being met. You felt secure, knowing that no matter what else happened, your mother put you and yours first. Somewhere along the line, we started disparaging self-denial and devotion to others in favor of "self-actualization". The result is that the sins of the fathers are visited on the children. The solution? As trite as it may sound, I think no-fault divorce ought to be done away with, along with more social disapproval of cohabitation. What kind of life does a live-in lover provide for a kid? There's not much security there. If we made marriage a little harder to get out of maybe people would count the cost and make a better commitment going in. And I think women ought to stop giving away their sexual favors. Why buy the cow if you get the milk for free? Enough from me. Thoughts?
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