Right. My patient (30 year old female) has contradictory beliefs and feelings, which seems to be a pattern used in many interactions with women. On one hand she feels guilty and responsible for well-being of another person (sister, mother-in-law, friends, etc), and in the same time she feels angry that those people are not supposed to demand anything from her. She describes that she feels as a victim (feeling traped, guilty, etc) of others' needs, but is also seen as offender (those women show her that she is the cause of their discomfort). Example: While she is the person who calls, visits and listen everything is fine (being in the same time angry that she's doing the things she doesn't like), but when she deals with her own life and doesn't call she recieves a call/sms/e-mail, which says how bad person she is, that she doesn't care for the feeling of significant others, that the person was waiting for her call and couldn't do something... Magdalena
When my patient was trying to get any feedback from those person on what they expect from her none of such demands appeard.
So- feeling guilty and angry, being responsible, denied expectations from others with strong sense that they exist.
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