The way out of your "quandary” might be paved by utilizing the Socratic method. Although Classical Adlerian psychotherapy is rooted in a values-oriented psychology that is philosophically very rich, our vision of optimal human functioning is not imposed on a client, but serves as a reference point for our diplomatic and respectful questions. Clients are not told how to live, but are stimulated and challenged to make their own conclusions, after exploring the meaning, implications, and consequences of their present, past, and potentially future behavior.
People are generally quite surprised to discover that they feel much happier and more secure after they have identified, and let go of, their egocentric, unconscious, fictional goals of security, significance and success that they originally adopted in childhood.
In addition to being interested in the personal happiness and success of our clients, we are also interested in the mental, emotional, and physical well-being of the other people in their lives. The great appeal of Adlerian philosophy, theory, and practice, is that it embraces a broad range of psychological intervention--prevention, treatment, and optimal development. Adler’s writings emphasize the responsibility of individuals for improving life, not just for themselves, but for many others.
Most clients do not have a clear and inviting picture of greater psychological health, and they rarely ask us to provide it for them. We can however, with gentle diplomacy, at a later stage of psychotherapy, ask them if they are interested in pursuing this direction. (Read Classical Adlerian Theory and Practice at the AAISF web site http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/theoprac.htm for an overview of the stages of psychotherapy and the Socratic method).
For a “spiritual” lift, mixed with Adlerian philosophy, you might want to read Alexander Mueller’s You Shall be a Blessing , You can find an article about the book at http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/muellera.htm