Dear Mick, Mike, Mark, and others (sorry, that was too good to pass up) :-)
One of Rich Hycner's colleagues, Lynne Jacobs, Ph.D., has a piece on-line that you might like to read. It is a training lecture she presented during an intensive weekend at the Portland Gestalt Therapy Training Institute < http://www.easystreet.com/~mayab >. The piece is called "Dialogue and Paradox..." and it's part of Gestalt!, vol. 2; no.1 < http:rdz.stjohns.edu/gestalt!/2(1) >. You can read it chronologically or by topics.